I’m not a fan of most parenting books and there’s actually a few that make my blood boil. Most I cannot stay interested in past a couple paragraphs. I have a sort of mental allergic reaction and get fidgety and grumpy. I also don’t like being told what to do. There’s probably a connection there. Unfortunately I know about my parenting book allergy because I’ve had to read a lot of parenting books lately as mandated/suggested by our adoption agency. The following is one I actually loved and would recommend.

The Connected Child by Dr. Karyn Purvis, Dr. David Cross, and Wendy Lyons Sunshine came to me like a breath of fresh air. It’s geared toward adoptive parents, or parents of kids from hard backgrounds, but I wholeheartedly recommend it to all parents, grandparents, teachers. Anyone! In The Connected Child Dr. Purvis and her colleagues lay out a plan for parenting that keeps the heart of any relationship in the foreground: Connection. It’s all about connecting. What use is anything we do as parents if ultimately we are unconnected to our children? Most of this is common sense, but not necessarily your Grandma’s common sense. It’s the common sense we would all find if we listened to what we really know our family needs and did it without thought of how people would judge our children’s behavior or how much time we’d save by taking a shortcut. And, it’s backed up by the latest understanding of neuroscience, child development, and the effects of trauma on children. There’s tons of practical advice for handling specific situations. It’s an encouraging book. And I didn’t fidget while reading it. Not even once!

There is a conference associated with the book called Empowered to Connect and I highly recommend going to the conference too, if at all possible.